Posted by Kath on March 1, 2007, at 15:25:28
In reply to bad day....:(, posted by alesta on February 28, 2007, at 11:19:08
Hi A,
Thanks for posting your apology. I read it as very sincere.
As to the friend exploding. You're probably right; she is under a LOT of stress & sometimes WE are the 'straw that breaks the camel's back'. Sometimes WE happen to be or do or say the thing that is just simply the LAST STRAW & someone flips out. It is NOT cool; it's not OK that they direct everything else at us, but it happens!!
Also, I wonder about when we help a friend come to a very difficult realization - one that's going to be VERY hard for them, because now they REALIZE something is not alright in their life & now they have to either change, or continue to live in that situation, while knowing that it's NOT OK.
It wouldn't surprise me if a part of them has some frustration about it. I have experienced that myself. I could see myself feeling a kind of frustration with someone who helped me arrive at a place where I could SEE that something in my life wasn't okay & that to take care of myself, I really should do something different....and that might be very hard.
If I weren't careful, I could feel sort of teed off at the person.
Not saying it's that in this case; I tend to think it's the last straw thing. But I just wanted to mention it.I send you hugs & hope you're feeling better.
hugs, Kath
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