Posted by Dr. Bob on January 21, 2007, at 3:51:02
In reply to Re: calling for help, posted by fayeroe on January 20, 2007, at 17:39:56
> Why is suggesting multiple times, the only advice we (as Non-Professionals) know to be equal to the severity of the complaints/posts, "pressure"? ... What would be the appropriate response for non-doctors, on a site which isn't supposed to be used as(or replace) therapy itself, to someone talking of suicide and overdose? To me, anything less than suggesting calling ones psychiatrist, an new pdoc, a distress center, or going to the ER, would not only be incompetant, but would even mock the person's distress
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> I don't believe it's the "fault" of the poster when a repeated suggestion is infered (as you, according to the wording above, have seem to have done) with "anger". Why did you choose "anger" and not "distress" or "concern"?
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> Also, you've never commented on how people must also learn to *reject* advice in an equally responsible and neutral way.
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> thanks ElFirst, I didn't mean to imply that suggesting that someone in distress call a psychiatrist or a distress center or go to an ER was inappropriate. Nor that anyone here wasn't trying to help.
Maybe pressure was on my mind because it's been an issue at Admin. That's a good question, if there's a difference between suggesting multiple times and pressuring. And another good question is whether there ways to suggest that would be more likely to be experienced as concern rather than anger. What do you all think?
As far as how else to respond, are there responses *in addition* to those suggestions that you all would find helpful if you were feeling really distressed? What would you want a friend to say to you?
I agree, posters in distress do need to be civil, too.
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> i'm just picking myself up off the floor over this........i posted about how much damage deneb's liver is taking and i wonder if he thinks she shouldn't know that?
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> patSorry about knocking you onto the floor. No, her knowing that wasn't the issue.
Bob
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