Posted by LJRen on December 1, 2006, at 0:22:35
In reply to Sharing too much information, posted by TexasChic on November 30, 2006, at 20:04:50
Yes, TxChic, I too share too much too easily or specifically too soon in relationships. I've determined that it is due to a lack of personal boundaries. In fact, it wasn't until a few years ago I had even heard of boundaries. And since then it's still a concept I often forget to put into practice. For whatever reason, my parents failed to instill this much needed protection habit in me.
Now I don't go around telling people my bank account number or important business stuff like that. But I guess what some people would consider intimate personal information just comes right on out with hardly a thought of who I'm telling it to. And I know I've done it in the past in hopes of forging a fast, close friendship. Thinking that if I open up to them, they'll open up to me. But most people out there were instilled with boundaries and when someone they barely know bares all so quickly it really freaks them out b/c they don't understand why that person has exposed so much. And the typical subsequent reaction to freaking out is running away. Hence, I've personally experienced a lot of rejection. Not fun.
Being a little older now, I try to stay a more aware of what I say to folks. But I probably still let it out too easily that I suffer from depression. For some reason I feel the need to explain my withdrawn, somber behavior to people. I guess I'd rather them know the truth than think I'm being aloof.
Anyway, I hope this helps a little.
Take care,
Ren
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