Posted by yxibow on October 3, 2006, at 1:00:49 [reposted on October 4, 2006, at 21:26:53 | original URL]
In reply to Should i join the Army or Marnies to get out?, posted by Rjlockhart on October 2, 2006, at 18:49:29
> I am really well, this should be on the relationships board but i have to post this here on psychobabble.
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> I am living in an enviorment that is smuthering. My mom is, overly controlling, im 19, for god sake why does she still call me "toot" in frount of people. There is something wrong, im not saying with her but her actions, she well, i almost fell into a confort zone here at home, right now im posting at collage, i cant post at home she wont let me, she doenst want anyone to give me advice exept a couselor which i can hardly see.
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> She considers me almost a kid, but then i have to deal with her anger, stuborness, non-comromising, personality. She has been this way almost her entire life with me, yelling out problems... yelling at me, which sometimes yes i am irresponsible, that is my fault.
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> But i am having a almost severe crisis, i have ADHD, or i would say, i have a severe hard time focusing, sometimes i zone out, i put stuff and its right in frount of my face, and i forget about ... 6 times. Anyways thats something i cant discuss with my psychitrist because
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> #1 My mother will not let me see the doctor by myself, she will, i will get in to a huge fight, she doesnt want me on Dexedrine because SHE was addicted to it in the 1970's for modeling. She was on Desoxyn actually. She belived i was addited to it.
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> What my plan is, i dont know what is to come, i join the marines or the army and go Iraq then i will be away from her. But the bad side is it is going to be Intesely hard in the marines, it going to hold off my career, and i may get killed (but i dont know that). I will be able to talk to a military psychiatrist, about my bad problem, and see what happens. I dont know what is to come, this could all turn out not good. At least i would be supporting my country. There is no way she could do anything to try to control, its the military, once im in, she is out.
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> Or the Air Force. either way i would be getting away from her.
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> I am going to talk to a social worker. And may go and talk to the marines, or air force, what ever comes pray for me.
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> Matt
Talk to a social worker. Go divorce your relationship if you have to in any way you can from your mother since its obviously not akin to helping you with your condition, but don't join the Army during wartime. Well, I could get political and say its a police action, but anyhow. Politics is for another side of the board.And not to be sardonic or mean, but it is unlikely that the Army will accept you in your condition because they do psychiatric batteries of enlistees. I mean I've even thought about it (before Iraq), as well as the local police department, but psychiatrically I'm not up to that.
A social worker is a good idea. Family court. Something else. Moving out and getting yourself a job that you can cope with while you are bettering yourself. Get insurance from that job. Keep it through COBRA and HIPAA. You're the age of majority, but I think finding a job that pays enough for now and finding roommates, friends that will allow you to move in, and then once you've saved enough, go to community college and transfer to a state college and get a degree. By this point you will have put yourself back on your feet and you can reconcile with your mother. Don't turn your back on her, but recognize that this is really not a healthy situation. That's just my 2c, as I've heard you express it and I can tell your exasperation.
-- Sincerely
Jay
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