Posted by Lindenblüte on October 4, 2006, at 7:59:47
In reply to Re: sending random emails to the past, posted by rainbutterfly on October 4, 2006, at 7:03:54
One time a guy from my past, who I had a most disastrous romantic affair with, returned, and asked to go on a walk with me, as he had "something he wanted to talk about me with".
Well, I guess he was at a point in his life where he had actually experienced heartbreak, and realized his own role in breaking my heart most cruelly and viciously. Well, he apologized for all of these minutiae and things that I didn't even remember from 3 years earlier, and for acting like this and that, which I never percieved, and for all of these insecurities, which I never percieved.
I was engaged, and listening to his "confession" of sins (very much in the Catholic tradition), I was somewhat amused, but mostly annoyed. I couldn't get into this deep place of regret that was making him cry even as he asked for a hug, which I uncomfortably granted him.
And the whole thing was very memorable, but did not have much meaning for me. I was in a much more stable and loving relationship. I haven't kept in touch with him. I wonder if his "confession" helped him at all, or whether it was just another symptom of some great upheaval in his life. Oh well. We just didn't have any connection.
So, if you miss the "connection" you are not likely to reestablish it. Better look elsewhere, or find a different set of priorities. (dog? cat?)
And if you want to learn more about yourself, Elaine, then you should look within yourself, or your current relationships, not to this person who has no doubt changed just as you have in the intervening time.
with pink gloves (in my imagination)
-Li
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