Posted by Joan797 on October 4, 2006, at 7:10:47
I don't want this on the Relationship Board.
I am constantly and forever will be struggling with my weight. I have overweight children. My oldest Daughter, soon to be 17 is very overweight. I love her to pieces and she is a beautiful young woman. I don't harp on her abour her weight, and yet try not to have fattening foods in the house. I keep thinking she will make the descision on her own. She has tried to diet in the past and I have encouraged her, in fact, even bribed her with money and clothes.........if you lose this amount I'll give you this.....she never loses over 10 pounds and soon gives up on the diet. She has lots of stretch marks, wears sloppy clothes or ones that are too tight. Shopping is always a bad experience because she tries on clothes that don't fit, gets depressed and ends up buying something that looks horrible on he. She has terrible posture because she seems to be trying to hide her body when she walks. She has developed many sluggish habbits like hours on the computer, phone and watching tv. I used to encourage (sometimes force) her to be active in school sports. She eventually quit them all. She quit dance when her tummy bulge showed in the outfit. She quit backetball when she developed knee pain due to her weight. She quit cheerleading when she was treated like a leper for being larger than the other girls and didn't letter at the end of the year. All of these things, I allowed her to quit rather than throwing a fit because I too know what it is like to be heavy in a thin society. She attends a VERY small school. She is accepted and loved by everyone. She has tons of friends and always has someone to go do something with and many friends come here to our house.
I told you all of that, to tell you this.
My daughter is and always has been crazy about boys. She has had crushes on many, and many were not the cream of the crop. I'm not one of those mothers who think noone is good enough, it's just that I am so worried that they are just playing her and have no intention of seeing her for who she really is....a beautiful bright vibrant girl. Many are friends with her and she wants more. Those that do show her attention, end up hurting her because they only want to try to have sex with her........I worry about her self esteem problem and if that will cause her to eventually say yes to sex just for the attention. I don't know how to help her and I am worried about her. Any advise???
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