Posted by Cass on August 30, 2006, at 13:15:09
I'm an old-timer here, but I hardly ever post anymore. I'm posting now because I've had a few rough weeks of depression and anxiety, and I've been having nightmares every night -- nightmares about being lost or being in danger. I have these dreams right before I wake up, and it starts the day off all wrong. I also had an argument with my husband this morning. He made an off-handed criticism about my weight and denied it. We were talking about something I was going to wear under my clothes, and he said it would only show through if my shirt was skin tight. I said most of my shirts are skin tight, and he said, "Oh, how did that happen?" Later he admitted it was a comment about my weight, and he apologized, but he didn't seem very sincere. I think he just wanted us back on speaking terms. Things weren't resolved, and there's still tension between us. I know I didn't handle it as well as I could have because I'm very sensitive right now. I couldn't stomach his dishonesty when he denied the insult. It was clear he was criticizing me. I know he used to make off-handed insults to his ex-wife, and he admits that it broke up their marriage. He has been careful not to make that mistake again, yet here he was doing it. I told him, "This is what you did to your ex-wife." He got pretty mad about that and walked away. I probably shouldn't have said that. Maybe it was a low blow, but I was feeling hurt.
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