Posted by cloudydaze on July 30, 2006, at 17:37:11
In reply to Re: Upset, can't sleep... » cloudydaze, posted by Jay on July 30, 2006, at 16:34:32
> C-D, I've been trying to think how I can still best help out in this forum, as a LOT of people gave their time for me. Let me say, I *clearly* can see the connection between this lost friend and yourself. I've been snooping around looking for some bigger answers on the whole depression thing, and something I came across is that depression and grief look (and pretty much are in a way) exactly the same. And, it is often hard to seperate the two, unless you go by the medical terms of "length of illness"...etc. Like, if you lost someone 1 month ago, and are depressed, they will put you in the clinical "grief" catagory. If it is 5 years after you lost someone, then maybe you will end up in the "depression" catagory. Sorry for the length...but maybe your depression and grief are being molded together, and the hurt is even more intense.
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> Anyhow...regardless....if this goes on..bring it up with your pdoc or doc or therapist, etc.
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> Best,
> JayUnfortunately I do not currently have a therapist or psychiatrist. I need to probably think about getting a new doc or two - was unsatisfied with my last psychiatrist.
Thank you for your support, it is appreciated (that goes for everyone...thanks a lot).
Yes, my grief is most likely heightened by my mental illness (which happens to be bipolar). I remember when I was in grade school (4th or 5th?) and a boy in the other class died. I barely new him, but I cried for a long time. I have always been very sensitive to these sorts of things. I stopped watching the news altogether because it made me upset.
I don't know about grief being the same as depression though - I don't know a whole lot about the grieving proccess, so i looked it up.
The grieving process:
1. Denial or Shock
2. Bargaining
3. Guilt
4. Depression (depressive symptoms)
5. Anger
6. AcceptanceIt says this under bargaining:
"At times, individuals may ruminate about what could have been done to prevent the loss.
Individuals can become preoccupied about ways that things could have been better, imagining all the things that will never be.
This reaction can provide insight into the impact of the loss; however, if not properly resolved, intense feelings of remorse or guilt may hinder the healing process."http://www.uiowa.edu/~ucs/griefloss.html
I think this sums up what I was feeling when I posted...
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