Posted by Deneb on July 12, 2006, at 17:10:19
In reply to Re: Why bother doing anything, I'll only fail *tri » Deneb, posted by Dinah on July 11, 2006, at 7:38:45
> What people tell you has more to do with them than with you.
> What you choose to do in response to what people tell you has more to do with you than with them.
I can't control what others tell me, but I can control how I react to what they say. That's basically what you're telling me right?
> One step along the way to maturity is to stop seeing a link between what other people do and what you do. There can well be a link in how you feel. But when you stop thinking of terms of "So and so did this, so they made me do this..." and start thinking "So and so did this, I stopped to think about it, and decided that I would choose to...", doesn't that sound much healthier?
I still do that a lot, don't I? It's hard to learn.
I think I'm still immature in my thinking and feeling.
Deneb*
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