Posted by Racer on June 20, 2006, at 17:31:09
In reply to Re: I'm going to try really hard to change » Deneb, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 23:21:27
First of all, Deneb, I'll tell you to listen to Dinah, who's pretty smart and gave some good advice there.
Then I'd tell you to listen to everyone else who's responded to this.
And finally, I'll tell you to listen to that voice inside you that you can only hear when everything around you is quiet: ask that little voice whether you're OK as you are? If the answer comes back, "Not quite..." then you ask that little voice what you need to work on? And whatever that little voice inside you, the one that's so quiet you can only hear it when everything around you is quiet, whatever that little voice says to work on, you should probably work on.
What I'm trying to say is that there's no point in trying to change for someone else. It doesn't work, for one thing, but mostly, Deneb, you have to be someone YOU like. If you would like yourself better without so many Bob posts, then by all means try to reduce the number. If you like yourself just fine when you post about your feelings about Bob, then there's no problem posting about it.
Disclaimer: I was sexually abused as a child. I am not triggered by your posts, and therefore feel qualified to say the above.
And whoever suggested that self-acceptance in the face of external criticism was a good lesson, gave you an excellent idea to ponder.
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