Posted by madeline on May 1, 2006, at 5:43:34
In reply to Fashion advice, posted by Racer on April 30, 2006, at 20:41:32
Racer,
Maybe this is just my opinion, but congratulations on your weight gain! I think your belly (which I'm sure is adorable) represents a victory over illness. I see it as testament to your strength and the fact that you loved yourself enough to live. I know how intractable anorexia can be but you won Racer! You won!
But I also understand that this new, healthier body will require some getting used to. I think it is important to give yourself plenty of time to ease into the body that you have right now.
And I think there a small steps you can to help you do that.
I would actually recommend keeping your choice of clothes very very simple, maybe even dress all in one color for a while (very slenderizing to the eye). Then on top of that template, add some beautiful, confidence building things that will help you to integrate the new you.
Buy a new pair of shoes that you just love and then spend time looking in the mirror telling yourself how pretty your feet look in them.
Then buy some new make-up, earrings, maybe even a hat, then spend time looking in the mirror telling yourself how pretty your face looks while wearing them.
Buy a pretty pretty bra and marvel at how beautiful your breasts are.
Jewelry that makes noise, like charm bracelets always helps to make me feel beautiful, I guess because it helps me to focus on the "sound" my body makes and not the way it looks.
Since trying on and buying clothes seems to be a strong trigger for you, I wouldn't do it for awhile. Let these small things help you to gain confidence and then you can begin to focus on the clothes.
This maybe a way oversimplification of a complicated issue, but maybe it will help.
PS. I have a "poochy" belly and I just love it! I pet it and talk to it when no one else is around. I can't believe I am going to share this, but I actually say "hello poochy belly aren't you just the cutest thing?". I working on my relationship with my hips, however. They are SO spiteful.
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