Posted by TexasChic on April 21, 2006, at 19:18:59
In reply to Re: What a crappy day. » TexasChic, posted by madeline on April 21, 2006, at 18:39:04
Thanks, I appreciate that. Its been said before that the people I work with sound like they're in high school or even jr high. That's part of what makes it so frusterating because as an adult I'm at a loss as to how to deal with it. According to a few coworkers, they do this all the time. They choose one person to pick on. I've taken the place of another girl they did pretty much the same thing to.
I have talked with my boss and HR about one girl, who is the instigator, but I asked them not to do anything yet because I wanted to see if she would lose interest while I was ignoring her. She did just that for a couple of weeks. But now they've switched gears from work stuff to personal stuff. What can my boss do about that? He can't make them include me in their plans.
Today I was mostly upset at the other people who were acting like nothing was going on. I know people want to stay out of it, but there comes a point where not doing anything is like agreeing with it. Its not that I expect them to take up for me or anything, just maybe not participating in activities that include everyone but me. Or at least tell me they don't agree with it but don't want to get involved. That would be better than doing nothing.
I will be going on layoff for 3 months starting with June. So I'm trying to just tough it out, and then I'll go job hunting while on layoff. But I have this stubborn part of me that doesn't want to let them drive me away. I want to leave on my own terms. I've never delt with bullies very well. I'd like to think, as an adult, I can handle the situation that I couldn't as a kid.
-T
BTW, the alcohol thing isn't new. I can't really blame that on my job.
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