Posted by gabbi~1 on March 28, 2006, at 23:54:26
In reply to Re: Porn...what's the big deal? posible trigger » Dinah, posted by special_k on March 28, 2006, at 22:20:45
I'm surprised at the idea of sex without love being somehow.. wrong, or less worthy.
The idea of two people being together being the most acceptable form of "coupling" is more of an artificial invention than depictions of people having sex in various different ways.
Women have always been sexual creatures, that's part of the reason the more recent religions put them in generally virginal or asexual positions.
It was the fear of their sexuality.
that restraint of sexuality, the ideals put on it even with different wording, and different rationale, no different than the religious right.I find it contradictory to dislike the idea of men "J*acking off" to a picture, and then ask a man if it's "okay" or if he would be "proud" if his daughter, or sister was doing it.
Where's the woman in this? It seems the man's opinion is the important one.. the same men who are doing the "óbjectifying"Men will always "J*ck" off thinking about attractive women, it's existed since the Sears Catalogue had corset ads, and well obviously long before that. "Pornography" existed on cave walls.
It's healthy, it's normal, and hey, it's enjoyable.Now You've said "You don't know what her goals are, her ideals, her personality"
Well, neither do you, and you don't know whether or not she's completely satisfied with what she's doing.I resent someone else deciding what sex should be, what the higher form is.
Yes, the sex industry is fraught with abuse, and depersonalization.
So is Ballet, so are sports. It's not about the sex, it's about those with power using people to get ahead.
Making it about female/male sexuality, is just another form of repression.I've been through the cycle of abuse. I don't find pornography a trigger any more than I find any sex a trigger. Depictions of violence and rape are a different thing.
It's sex.
It's not always about roses and champagne, nor do I think it should be.
And yes some women *do* like that "sort of thing"
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