Posted by special_k on March 27, 2006, at 6:26:23
In reply to Re: Porn...what's the big deal? posible trigger, posted by milly on March 27, 2006, at 2:17:54
((((Milly))))
I'm sorry that happened to you :-(
> No I have no proof that the 2 are connected but if that is how you see women then it isn't a huge jump to behaving in a degrading fashion yourself.
I think it might be more that most people who commit violent crimes tend to fantasise about it whereas it doesn't really follow that most people who fantasise about violent crimes tend to do it.
I think about things I'd like to do to people sometimes (violent kinds of things) - but I don't think I'd really do it...
But I do think that the more you indulge in fantasy the more you are likely to start getting action urges...
And I guess people will say there is a difference between porn where the woman appears willing... And porn where the woman does not appear willing...
But personally it is the woman being willing to do stuff that most women really would not be willing to do that gets to me. I mean do guys really think that girls like that stuff? lol.
sigh.
It is more the objectification that gets to me (viewing a person as an object or a mere means to our end)
I feel pretty strongly about it and nothing like that has happened to me...
I understand your feeling all the more strongly about it given what has happened to you...
And re: child labour etc. IMO that is a good reason to lay off the global type stores that tend to make more use of third world labour.
I mean... I find myself doing a lot of things that I don't think I should do... I think most people do... Or maybe not. I don't know.
But I don't think it works to say 'but there are worse things in the world so I shouldn't worry about this lesser thing'. I mean... Where would that stop? It is okay for me to exploit this one person... Because OTHER PEOPLE exploit more than one.
I dunno. I guess all we can do is try and take responsibility for out own actions and explain our rationalle to others.
I like to think that if people understood the rationalle and took it on board then the world might be a better place.
But I dunno.
Sigh.
I dunno.
> it probably explains a bit of my strong feelings about this stuff and I DONT want it thrust in my kids faces.
> milly
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