Posted by Daisym on March 19, 2006, at 22:34:44
In reply to Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post, posted by Racer on March 19, 2006, at 15:40:08
This is probably too serious a reply because I get that you are venting and that is a good thing.
Here's what I've learned because in my line of work there are lots of "different and special" individuals, and I'm not talking about the kids with special needs.
Typically I find that people who need to keep pushing their sensitivities and wounds out on everyone else have not consistently had their needs met, nor have they any faith in anyone else's ability to be kind. They have fought so many battles (even if in their own mind) that they simply fight all the time and everyone to be seen and heard. They don't even give anyone a chance to treat them special before they demand it. Which of course makes us want to run in the other direction.
The other type I run into is the entitled type who have been told by: parent, therapist, support group, whomever -- that they DESERVE special treatment and therefore should demand it. I see this in so many places and the answer I usually get is that if they don't act they way they are, they are mistreated "even worse." *sigh*
When did we stop attracting flies with honey and start trying to catch them instead with sledge hammers?
I know you are in a rough spot. Hang in there. She can't hang around forever.
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