Posted by NikkiT2 on March 3, 2006, at 17:04:31
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, where would be a good place to... » NikkiT2, posted by Deneb on March 2, 2006, at 17:44:32
OK, sorry.. I shouldn't have used the word "current".
Deneb, you do accept that I know stuff about BPD? One thing I do *really* know is that attachment issues can be very strong, and ultimately very painful.. When the object of your attachment doesn't live up to your ideals you can end up so very very hurt.
This is why I think you really do need to discuss this with your Pdoc. She needs to be able to understand your feelings for Dr Bob incase you get badly hurt by them in the future.
Does she know about PB and your attachment to PB? It worries that if she doesn't, you wouldn't be able to explain how important it is to you should it upset in the future. You have posted some posts recently abouthow you wouldn't be able to survive another block, and that even the thought of it happening has had you in tears. Again, I think feelings of this kind of strength are something your pdoc really does need to be aware of.
I guess saying it made me uncomfortable when you post your declarations of love for Dr Bob was the wrong word to use. It does unsettle me though, as I worry about you getting hurt by it.
I'm sorry if this opinion isn't popular..
I would really reccomend reading "I hate you don't leave me" as a book to understanding more about BPD, especially attachment and black and white thinking... Its not sugar coated, and quite blunt in places, but helped me *hugely*.
We do care about you Deneb, and just don't want you to hurt.
Nikki
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