Posted by TexasChic on February 21, 2006, at 20:08:07
In reply to Re: I could blow a fuse right now » Sabrina0805, posted by Phillipa on February 20, 2006, at 19:33:01
This is classic case of co-dependence. I've experienced it with family first hand. The family member makes impossible demands that you feel obligated to try to achieve because not doing so will result in disaster for them. This is a form of manipulation that he's probably not even aware he is inflicting. You are not responsible for his sucess or failure! Just because he has put you in this position doesn't mean you're responsible. Its just a way of shifting blame.
My advice is do what you can for him, tell him what you are unable to do without his cooperation, and then leave it in his hands. In the end you are not responsible for the outcome. He may try to make it seem like you are, but its only a way of trying to get out of being held accountable. Everyone is responsible for their own destinies.
I hope what I'm trying to say is coming out right, its hard to explain.
Do you have a T? This would definitely be something to discuss with one.
-T
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