Posted by Glydin on January 31, 2006, at 13:05:06
In reply to Empty Nesters?, posted by Berberis on January 31, 2006, at 12:12:01
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> I'm sorry this wasn't supportive and, in fact, very depressing. But at least you know you're not alone.
Feelings you expressed about this transition are just honest and I think "normal"?I do think the key is craving out a life and interests for oneself. In other words, keep busy.... I've needed to work on *my own* interests for a while. If your experience is like mine, when they are around sixteen, there is the slow progression of them coming into their own. Adapting is almost more difficult for us than them. At least they have a bit of a guidebook and expectations as least as far as society expects. We don't have that advantage.
I'm fortunate I'm in a good place emotionally - better than probably anytime before. My head can rationalize what needs to be done by me but my heart may need a little while with some bandaids before I can work on plans.
I hope we both work it out.
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