Posted by crazy teresa on January 10, 2006, at 1:50:39
In reply to repeating old patterns? need advice!, posted by JenStar on January 9, 2006, at 21:33:06
"Changes That Heal" would be fantastic for helping you figure out what to do.
Break it down (Hammertime...)
By not respecting your boundries, she is giving you this uncomfortable feeling, so realistically, she's not worried about your feelings...
And isn't the way she is disrupting your life (and your family's lives if they see you upset about this) more important than your worrying about how she might or might not get her feelings hurt?
Could you say something like, "You know, when I see on the caller ID you've called my house repeatedly without leaving messages, and I see you driving by frequently, I'm very uncomfortable." or "I'm not judging you, but I really can't agree with what you're doing in this lawsuit, so I just don't think I'm the best person to be your friend."
Or you could take the not-so-honest-approach and tell her you'll be testifying against her in the lawsuit... That would probably kill the friendship thing pretty quickly.
Since it sounds like she's nearly stalking you, that might not be good, though.
That's a really hard position to be in.
poster:crazy teresa
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