Posted by zeugma on January 5, 2006, at 21:15:30
In reply to It's interesting how sometimes we have patience..., posted by sleepygirl on January 5, 2006, at 4:21:39
> and sometimes we don't
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> Sometimes we can have empathy for behavior that may be frustrating (yes, the recent Deneb postings got me thinking, but more than that), and sometimes we don't
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> like we know the behavior is about "something", from the ways we've learned about ourselves, and how we haven't seemed to make sense before, haven't been able to understand, communicate clearly.......so we have some patience, but there is the ability to lose oneself in things, becoming "someone else", a part in a play
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> Why is it so hard to be clear? to understand what we want, what we need?
> I still can't be clear - sometimes I honestly and really don't know, so there's a tiny piece of my empathy.
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> Someone said once that you should stand back sometimes and consider the "performance piece" in front of you, what does the audience need to know, and what part will you play - I only partially grasp this.
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to put oneself in another's vantage point. serious if naive question- are we talking about literal acting? (somehow that seems oxymoronic, but never mind- am very serious.) because a stage is a controlled situation where it is reasonable to attempt this, the audience is kept in the dark so as to facilitate one's own signal and reduce audience's noise- now if we are talking about as a psychotherapeutic principle well i would say individuals are too idiosyncratic and signal to noise ratio too low (in most cases- there are exceptions).
> It's hard to know when holding back is appropriate from when it feels like being witholding, withdrawing, abandoning, all that. I've often thought people were cold when they've wanted to keep themselves removed from all that.
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i distance myself. or communicate only with those i know how to communicate with. and i feel cold for doing this.> I myself feel removed by commenting on it all like what the heck do I know, but I like the different perspectives and all
> well there's my late night/early morning ramblings......
> see ya later
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i am sleepy too,sleepiness not at all induced by your comments, are you narcoleptic as well? (serious if naive question)-z
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