Posted by JenStar on October 2, 2005, at 22:32:44
In reply to Serious question, need answers, posted by Angela2 on October 1, 2005, at 13:43:55
hi Angela,
sometimes I convince myself that I don't like people because I'm afraid they won't like or accept ME. And then once they are friendly or make the first overture, I get all happy and realize I DO like them and DO want to be friends!Do you think you're the same way, at all?
If so, I think a way to get over it is to extend friendly overtures to people. If you meet someone nice at the dog park or coffee shop, or on your street, you could say something like, "You know, I'm really trying to make more friends, and you seem really cool. Would you be up for getting a cup of coffee sometime? I mean, nothing huge, but just to hang out a bit?"
I know it seems REALLY weird and forward, but sometimes it works!
J
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