Posted by alexandra_k on September 19, 2005, at 21:08:28
In reply to Thank you Alexandra, posted by ClearSkies on September 19, 2005, at 20:55:20
Its a hard one. I guess that with triggering posts all one can do is make sure that there is a trigger warning (by posting one oneself if there isn't one and by asking the poster to please do this in future).
Some kinds of posts that people are likely to find triggering are considered unacceptable ((e.g., joking about death) but aside from those kinds of posts that get admin action then I guess some people are triggered... While others are not...
Sometimes when I am feeling fragile myself I avoid posts by certain posters because I worry that I won't cope very well with being triggered. There are a number of posters whose trigger warnings I have learned to take fairly seriously. I wait till I am in a fairly good space to read them. And when I am in a fairly good space I most often don't even feel triggered by them. And then I guess I am more likely to be able to offer something helpful.
One of the good things about the boards is that there are a lot of us here :-)
That means that we can share the responsibility.
I don't feel bad ignoring trigger warning posts when I'm not feeling so good because I appreciate that there has gotta be someone in a better space to read / reply to that and so I can just let it go.BPD is a hard thing to provide support for at times. I know that when I get in some of my particularly foul black moods I really am not in the place to be able to accept help that is offered sometimes. When I come out of it a bit (couple days max) then... Well... I seem to be a different person, I guess. It is hard. But there are a lot of posters here and so if you are not in a particularly good space, or if you really don't know what to say, then sometimes it really is better to not respond and let someone who may temporarily be in a better place deal with it.
> What if something serious happened and I have not read a triggering post, resulting in harm to someone else?
I think... That might be taking on a little too much responsibility. Accepting ones limitations can be hard... But that really is best all round in the long run.
((((PC)))))You are valued here
:-)
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