Posted by Gabbix2 on September 1, 2005, at 21:29:01
In reply to Re: Whoa! Did I cause all this???, posted by lynn970 on September 1, 2005, at 20:56:40
> I was just trying to keep the peace.
> When my dad had TB we were on welfare...
>
> Dont like to see babblers argue
>I appreciate that, and your concern and It's not my favorite thing either, but then neither is a forced, tepid congiality.
I did understand that she was speaking in frustration and I'd mentioned in my previous post that people are far more likely to say things they wouldn't normally, when in a frightening position such as Dominiques.We cleared it up. It was not an argument. I said how I felt, and she apologized. But I'm not going to let a hurtful generalization, slip by for the sake of keeping peace.
After all it's during times of frustration that we are quite likely (not always) able to find out where people really stand. It's more simple to be fair and kind when everything is going well.
I find it more peaceful after the people involved have talked it through, and worked through things, as we did. You get to know someone that way, I mean it's not ideal
And I don't do it as a matter of course :)As it is, the fact that Dominique apologized, said more to me about her than her original post. I really respect that, and if I'd not said anything, I would only have the hurt I felt at her remark to associate with her.
Now I feel really bad for Dominique, don't worry, I won't mention your name, at least not about this subject, again, I promise : )
It's gone on long enough
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