Posted by nout on July 26, 2005, at 5:27:36
In reply to *trigger* » Phillipa, posted by Sonya on July 26, 2005, at 2:51:13
"anything"...Hey, you brought me from the sidelines and into the game. I feel for you not having the (safety net,crutch,security blanket)taken away and not able to have it back. It reminds me of growing up and having to abandon "childish" things that were familiar and safe for us as we entered a new level or phase of our lives. We can't stagnate our existance or we will regress into a place that makes it increasingly difficult to escape from; we require fresh air.
Your "stash" was involuntarily taken away from you- I would be pissed too. I believe if you were made to give it up voluntarily, like babies with their pacificers and sippy cups, then you would feel like your decision was made BY you and not FOR you. Loss of control is detremental to our self esteem which, especially for me, is always lower than it should be and it seems that everyone wants to keep knocking it down.
I hope this helps you to some degree because I feel better now that you got me in the game.
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