Posted by gabbii on July 14, 2005, at 18:24:41
In reply to I actually really, really, really want some love, posted by crushedout on July 13, 2005, at 20:46:28
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> I can totally relate to stuff I've read here lately about not wanting to grow up, or wanting to be little again, wanting to be on a lap, be held, feel safe. I've been longing for it so badly for so long. I don't know how we really ever get over this. I want a mommy.
>Oh, *sigh* I have that craving so often.
I wonder if it can be healthy to have a "Mommy"
I mean Aren't all relationships a little sick?
I know that there are not many proffessionals
would say it was healthy, but if you need to be mothered and you find someone who likes to mother and who's not power tripping it could work I think.I had that once, with my girlfriend Jamie, we were together for about a year and a half.
At first it was so wonderful, I finally understood why the heterosexual couples I saw could not keep their hands off of each other in public.
I'd never felt that way with a guy.
She was a complete mother, but wow, when it goes bad it goes.. really really bad.
She turned out to be very abusive, in the most insidious brilliant way (like something from a movie) I ended up being like slave-girl, and then she'd be motherly and comforting again, and I ended up getting so confused. Confused is not the word actually..
I ended up in the psych ward.. My first time!
(Hat's off to you Jamie, you lousy souse)
There's something funny about this though, I can laugh about it now.
When I went to see my psychiatrist I told him about the relationship, and he recommended a therapist "Who dealt with these issues"
Now I lived in a city, with about as many therapists as there must be in California..
He gave me a name.. I went to see her, and she was the woman Jamie was cheating on me with.
I had NO idea, I didn't know her by name.
Yoiks..
So I vowed I'd never date another woman again, because I never ever want to be that in love again..
Or whatever it was.
Of the three women she dated directly after me,
One attempted suicide, One became a drug addict,
and the other one moved to Japan just to get away.
She was such a charmer.boy did I ramble on there..
I've mentioned the relationship on the board before (in case anyone is confused) but I never said Jamie was a woman before, I was shy..
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