Posted by TamaraJ on July 10, 2005, at 22:57:20
In reply to really feeling alone, posted by rainbowbrite on July 10, 2005, at 22:43:59
I'm sorry that things are a bit difficult right now. It does make us feel lonely when we have misunderstandings with people we have been friendly with, especially when we can't seem to repair the misunderstanding. It hurts. I know it's no comfort to remind yourself that, in time, the wounds usually heal, and people forgive and forget, particularly when you are feeling terrible about the situation right now. But, I guess all I can say is that if you have explained your side of things, apologized (if necessary) and tried to make amends, then now all you can do is step back and give the person time to process what happened. In the meantime, keep yourself busy with other things as best you can, and have a good cry if and when you can.
Oh, and this may sound stupid, but I sometimes send friends cards with a note, not just when there has been a misunderstanding, but also when they are hurting or going through a bad time. And, the nice thing is when one is being sent following a misunderstanding, you can explain things and apologize, but it is less emotional than when it is done face to face.
I hope everything works out. Take care.
Tamara
> Ive never had a problem with confrontation, actually sometimes Im too confrontational and maybe thats the problem. But right now I feel really alone, so alone I cant even explain, I need someone to understand me or to know how I feel right now. im left hanging on one misunderstanding and now I have had a huge fight with someone and i see him all the time, It is just so uncomfortable and I really dont need this right now. And the choice is to keep fighting, but Im too tired or to ignore each other which is sort of stupid. I think i just need to be heard becasue I dont want to talk to my friends about certain things, these being certain things. Right now I need something that I cant find. I want to cry but I cant.
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