Posted by Jen Star on July 1, 2005, at 23:18:46
In reply to Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
hi Deneb,
I think you're perfectly normal and you shouldn't worry about it!I think the human body is beautiful, and there should be nothing shameful or furtive about admiring the beauty of another person, be that person male or female. (Assuming you don't make that person uncomfortable with aggressive leering, which you are not doing!)
Think about this: Males and females alike love to watch Olympics, gymnastics, figure skating, ballet, modern dance, theatre, athletes, etc. Women love to admire women athletes as much as men athletes, and v.v. And it's considered "ok" to admire a famous person or love to watch dance, so why not OK to admire a "regular" person or think they are lovely?
Also keep in mind that many clothes are designed to draw the eye to the breasts and cleavage. It's hard not to look, even if you're not desiring that woman! I too find myself staring sometimes at a woman's body b/c her clothes are revealing or b/c she's beautiful. But I'm happinly married to a guy and don't feel physical sexual attraction to other women. Yet I do still love to look at lovely bodies regardless of whether they are male or female.
About touching - maybe it's just the desire to see what it's like to be another person. I think we're all curious about what we're not and what we don't have.
Of course, if you were gay that would be totally cool and OK and normal and accepted too. But it doesn't mean you are, just because you like to look at beautiful girls. :)
JenStar
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