Posted by PM80 on June 13, 2005, at 12:57:35 [reposted on June 14, 2005, at 23:08:14 | original URL]
In reply to Re: What other thing are people interested in?? » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on June 13, 2005, at 12:36:48
I think pegasus had some good pointers.
I feel the same way - bored too much of the time. I coached a girls' soccer team, which was fun, but is now over. Volunteering, I think, can definitely fill a void. It gives you something to do that doesn't feel like you are just masking the emptiness - like, say, partying when you're bored does. Not that I'm saying that taking an art class or joining a team isn't worthwhile. It really can help you stretch and help you see things from a different angle. Just be careful of doing something just for the sake of doing something, because then you are only masking the emptiness, not filling it. My thought was that what better way could I possibly spend my extra time than making someone's life better. Doing something that is not centered in self is always rewarding to the soul. Find a cause that you can truly relate to on a personal level and try to find a way to help others with that problem.
It seems, pinkeye, from things that you have shared that you have so much to offer others. And the interesting fact is, you probably will find happiness when you find a way to healthily give it out to those who are in need. Maybe you could start a women's group for female indian immigrants? It could be a book club, or a weekly tea, or whatever. I would guess that a lot of issues that you have dealt with are far more common than you think. If you open up, others may be surprisingly willing to open up as well. Or maybe you could focus on teaching english to newer immigrants. Or maybe you've thought of something totally different, but just would not know how to get started - we may be able to help give you ideas.
Hang in there. We're all glad that you've joined here. And you're right that boredom can be a serious problem psychologically. At least, it is sometimes for me.
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