Posted by JenStar on June 14, 2005, at 13:55:11
In reply to weird thought question ***possible trigger***, posted by JenStar on June 14, 2005, at 0:36:16
so, as an update, my husband finally DID confirm that he would save me over the bus. Yaaahh! I'm loved! :) (Although I know it's a horrible way to make someone express love.)
I have a hard time too. It's hard to differentiate rational thoughts from knee-jerk reactions. But I really do think I'd always move to save my loved ones, even if they were smaller in number. I know I'm selfish that way, but it's the way I am. I admire altruistic people, but I'm not sure I'm wired that way.
I do lots of nice things, though -- I hold doors for people, I give up my seat on the bus or subway to pregnant women or elderly people. I smile. I give money or buy sandwiches for homeless people. If someone behind me in the checkout line has only a few items, I always let them go in front of me. I know those are small things, but I try to be "nice" in daily life. I suppose you could say that the benefit to me (feeling good) outweighs the "pain" (waiting longer, standing, etc.)
But in a bigger situation, I just don't think I'd be all that altruistic to save a bus of people. Hopefully I'll never really be in that situation!
JenStar
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