Posted by annierose on June 10, 2005, at 21:44:17
In reply to Thanks for support--update--it's even worse, posted by gardenergirl on June 10, 2005, at 0:14:05
GG-
You're probably back in Chicago (I think).
Men, they just don't think like we do. Our brains are wired differently.
I do think as we change and grow and get healthier, it is scary for our husbands. Mine actually just admitted to me that he is afraid that I'm going to leave him (as I get happier with myself). I replied, "I wouldn't think of it if you acted with kindess and thoughfullness all the time." He replied sarcasticly. Typical.
My husband and I did the marriage counseling thing. Funny, the T focused mostly on my husband's behavior, and wanted to see him individually. That last only a few more sessions before my husband quit. :( Now we see my daughter's T in joint sessions. She can speak to my husband in such a way, he doesn't get defensive. And he listens.
Change is slow. Change is hard.
I hope if you did go to Chicago with him, you were able to enjoy his company and have a good time. I hope he said he was sorry a million times too. And I hope your headache went away.
You're very special. Don't forget that!!
Annierose
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