Posted by rainbowbrite on June 2, 2005, at 11:31:44
In reply to Re: how to help my Mom help herself? » JenStar, posted by Phil on June 2, 2005, at 11:09:09
i am an expert at trying to get people to get themselves help and not getting the results I want...so I am probably the wrong person to give advice but if there is one thing I have learned...mind you it hasnt fully absorbed yet....is that we can not help another unless they want it.
and another bit of advice...you will drive yourself crazy trying to help her or make her try to see she needs help if she is not responsive. It can cause your stress level to go way over tollerable levels and make you feel awful. So you have to be careful there.Im sorry you are going through this, it is really really hard.
I like Phil's suggestion of an intervention of some kind. Another possible way which could be brought up if you do do that is to say you all will cut yourself off from her until she starts making better decisions and caring for herself.
Or you could write her a letter that explains how concerned and worried about her you are and how much you love her etc.
Take careRain
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