Posted by Damos on May 26, 2005, at 21:18:30
In reply to my husband doesnt believe im bi-polar, posted by woolav on May 26, 2005, at 19:12:37
Hey Woolav,
Can't begin to imagine how hard that is for you. My housemate has MS and it's effects have been evident for anyone to see since I've know her (over a decade). Her sister who is a director of nursing and has been a nurse etc for 30 years just cannot or will not process it, and can't deal with it on any level, which causes a lot of difficulties between them. Especially when she is so sensitive and caring for friends of hers that have any sort of illness and so positively cold to S*. So it might not be just your husband.
I know it doesn't make it any easier for you, but just maybe it's beyond his ability to process and accept. I'm a bloke and I know that sometimes there are things I can understand intellectually but just not process or respond to on an emotional level. A friend of mine whose wife had cancer a few years back told me once after she'd passed away and he'd got some perspective, that he couldn't deal with it at the time for the very reason that it was his wife and it was just all to close to home. Again, he's one of the most caring people I know, but for whatever reason he couldn't get 'there' for his wife and I know it breaks his heart every day. I also know from speaking to her that somehow - I don't quite know how, she understood what he was going through. Sorry, I'm not sure that helped at all.
My heart goes out to you.
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