Posted by littleone on May 12, 2005, at 21:41:38
In reply to Re: Mother's Day ideas?, posted by TofuEmmy on April 28, 2005, at 22:55:04
Thank you for the below post emmy.
I've cut off contact with my family since I've been working on abuse/neglect issues in therapy. I find it too difficult to work on those issues and have such superficial relationships with my parents.
My T was encouraging me to not see my mum for mother's day, something I felt very conflicted and guilty about.
After reading your email, I decided to bite the bullet and see her. We strolled around the botanical gardens for a couple of hours which was good because we could talk about the plants instead of about us or anything in our lives. So it was still very superficial, but nice to see her.
And she really appreciated spending some time with me.
I wouldn't have done that without your post, so thank you emmy.
I'm sorry that it is such a difficult day for you. I hope you had a nice friend or someone to share the day with. You're such a sweet person.
> If my mom were alive now, I'd just talk to her. REALLY talk. I'd share my heart with her. I'd tell her about my worries and my joys. And I'd ask 1000 questions about her childhood, her life, and about her worries and joys.
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> I'd take pictures of us together. I'd hold her hand, and take a picture of that too. I'd build memories, cuz you never know when she might just disappear.
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> I know that not everyone has a good relationship with their mom, but if it's at all possible, and desirable -- perhaps you could spend some time trying to patch things up before time slips away.
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> Hugs to all the moms.
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> emmy
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