Posted by alesta on May 11, 2005, at 16:08:51
In reply to Re: you're FINE, post away !!! » alesta, posted by sunny10 on May 11, 2005, at 15:48:13
> how do you think we "get through" this stuff if it's not by talking about it??????
thank you *so much* for saying that..:-)
> I think maybe that your family has some very weak boundaries when it comes to personal space, is all...
or a lot of perverts..i'm only half-kidding :)
> People who are "touchy-feely" (I am one of them), will sometimes accidently touch something they shouldn't- especially if you subconsciously are moving your body when you "see us coming"...
>
> That has happened to me, personally, in the past. I went to pat someone's back and they turned "away" (which of course, reversed them)and I wound up patting their collarbone instead!
>no, it wasn't like that, sunny..i was sitting still and she did that and pressed her hand into me unnecessarily..although i still could be just responding to the lack of boundaries..those definitely exist..
and i know what you're saying in your above quote, about your accidentally touching ppl. i wouldn't worry about instances like that at all. ppl intuitionally know the difference usually..instances like that have happened to me (and just about everyone) and i never thought anything of it...
thanks again. i feel better now. i was getting ready to ask bob if he'd move this thread to a less-traffic zone like relationships...maybe i still will. bob? will ya?
(he never talks to me...:))
aim
poster:alesta
thread:496451
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