Posted by TamaraJ on May 8, 2005, at 17:28:02
In reply to I Love You, posted by Toph on May 8, 2005, at 12:57:37
Growing up, my brothers and I rarely heard the words "I Love You". It didn't really bother me, and it still doesn't, but I find it awkward to say it even when I really, really feel it. I don't know, but saying it somehow makes me feel vulnerable, and I don't like feeling that way. I can love with all my heart, and show it in so many ways, but saying it out loud can be scary. The hug thing is also something my family is not big on. I guess the whole affection thing is not something I grew up knowing, probably because my parents were so wrapped up in fighting with each and the animosity that grew out of a relationship that should have never been or should have never lasted, that they were too emotionally exhausted to show affection to my brothers and I. Oh well, no big deal. My best friend's family have always been really affectionate, and when I first starting spending time (holidays, vacations, etc.) with his family, I realized what I had been missing. It was so nice to go over there and be hugged and told I was loved. Oh, and like you, I have no problem telling my dog I love her. That's it in a nutshell, I guess.
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