Posted by sunny10 on April 14, 2005, at 12:59:03
In reply to Re: On civility, kindness, and being pc » sunny10, posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 11:56:35
actually, after getting to know someone's personal writing style, it IS possible to tell if they are hurting, being sarcastic, helping, et cetera. While the getting to know process is occurring, yes, there can be miscommunications.
But even in face to face interactions there can be miscommunications. I can fail to smile because I am distracted and the person with whom I am communicating may perceive that I am upset- or worse; upset with them, et cetera.
Hugs and shoulders to cry on are a scarce commodity in what you refer to as IRL, at least for me...
Yes, they are nicer- granted. But none at all is devastating. I'll take the support I receive here at Babble over nothing everytime...
I completely agree that civility is always important in any interaction. If I am especially concerned about having my words understood, I DO use emoticons or erratic punctuation to help others "read between the lines", so to speak.I suppose that my style of communication CAN sometimes be construed as trite and insincere, but people who know me well know that I am emotionally invested in my fellow man- perhaps too much so- I would probably hurt less if I could manage to actually FEEL insincere and not empathize as much....
Sorry if my posts offended you- I really just meant to say that I consider you all to be very important to me whether I ever meet you face to face or not. You'll all always be real to me.
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