Posted by TamaraJ on March 20, 2005, at 18:57:43
In reply to major changes coming--scared but excited, posted by smokeymadison on March 20, 2005, at 17:07:51
WOW! You're right - exciting and scary at the same time! But a nice scary I would think. What a wonderful opportunity to be in a position to rekindle your relationship with your mom, or even re-establish on a different level that relationship. And a farm! I would love to be able to live on a farm. It is such a different and, for me anyway, refreshing, way of life. I am sorry about the break-up with your boyfriend. But, I completely understand that feeling of dependence without the being in love. It is much better for both people, in the long run, that such a one-sided relationship come to an end (I hope I don't sound cold, it is not my intention. I just think you are making the right decision for you in this particular situation). I hope you are successful in your goal to lose weight and get in shape. I am sure once you get started you will do very well. Perhaps you can see a nutritionist for advice on a well-balanced diet to assist you in losing weight.
Wishing you all the best as you move forward with these exciting life changes. Take good care of yourself.
Tamara
> i have decided to break up with my boyfriend and move in with my mom four hours away. she just moved into this farm house and is working on creating a farm there. she has two dogs, a cat, rabbits and chickens. i have not lived with her since i was in sixth grade. she was an emotional wreck then, but has changed dramatically in the last 8 years. she is on meds for the first time and is doing well. she has the same problems that i do--OCD and bipolar II, but is much more compulsive and doesn't cycle as much as i do.
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> in the fall i plan to return to the dorms and resume my education. dorm life is so much easier than apartment living, which i cannot handle right now. i plan to lose a lot of weight this summer and next fall with the help of my mom. she knows everything about nutrition and has a membership at the local YMCA. i figure that if i can get my body in shape, my mind will follow suit.
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> overall, i am very scared about everything that is going to happen. i don't know how i am going to handle breaking up with my boyfriend and never seeing him again. it needs to happen, though, b/c i am totally dependent on him and don't really love him like he loves me. it has to end.
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