Posted by jujube on February 15, 2005, at 11:29:44
In reply to difficult post--homophobics beware, posted by smokeymadison on February 15, 2005, at 0:23:01
FWIW I think you have to follow your heart. It is so easy to stay in a relationship that is *comfortable*, but at what cost? When we stay in such a situation, it is possible that eventually, resentment will set in, and we will find ourselves looking back on missed opportunities for true love with bitterness and regret. What was once a source of comfort in our lives becomes a source of anger and misery, stunting our emotional and spiritual growth.
I am no relationship expert that's for sure. All I know is that I stayed in a relationship long past the "expiry date" because I was comfortable and I loved him, but was not in love with him. When I finally left, I was a mess - not because I was afraid to pursue new relationships or to be alone, but because I felt guilty and kept thinking how my leaving would affect him and his happiness (how arrogant of me!). I don't regret having done it. We are both better people now.
What ever you decide to do, I wish you all the best and much happiness.
Tamara
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