Posted by alesta on December 16, 2004, at 15:48:10
In reply to This is my son and it REALLY depresses me. :(, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 22:21:10
hi angel girl,:)
i wanted to let you know that i feel for you. this discovery sounds like it has been pretty painful for you. <hugs> of course you still love your son. i don't believe it's his fault that he's like this, nor is it yours, sweetie. i've read your posts and am sure you didn't cause this. i wish i knew how else to comfort you..
here's something i found on the internet: "Researcher D.C. Rowe posits that some individuals have a genotype that disposes them to antisocial behavior. These individuals are characterized by a deficit of social emotions which include love, shame, guilt, empathy and remorse." so there may very well be a gene involved here (i would say without a doubt). continue to love your son, as long as you are able to protect yourself from emotional harm, and not implicate the blame on yourself. i know this is a big challenge that has been placed in your life, but i have faith in you. however, absolutely protect your emotional wellbeing first and foremost when dealing with your son. don't allow your son to hurt or take advantage of you as best you can (by setting boundaries, etc.) i know it's hard, but i believe some of the strongest people seem to get the hardest challenges in life. my heart goes out to you and your son.
much love and hugs,:)
amy
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