Posted by alesta on December 12, 2004, at 15:40:24
In reply to Re: Adagrace, » alexandra_k, posted by AdaGrace on December 12, 2004, at 11:00:21
> I do that, and it works sometimes but I just want him to "make love" to me. I want him to be in total control and make me feel so very alive and appreciated and loved. I want him to love my body, touch me, stroke me........give me extreem pleasure over and over and over again. I'm 40 we've been married almost 20, I want him to KNOW by now how to do it.....my god I buy him books and buy him books but he will not drink the water..... I have given up on him ever knowing what I need. And yes, I do tell him, I show him and I guide him.........it's no use.......he doesn't worship my body and my heart and certainly not my soul......
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> Ada, sexually depressed, Gracewhat is that quote, "you have to take control of your sexual pleasure" or something. i don't mean to get personal or anything, but maybe you could touch yourself during sex or better yet use a really good vibrator on your clit. it can't be easy for them (if they're on top) to touch you and make love to you at the same time. (they gotta hold themselves up and everything, lol.) i think more women should take control and responsibility for their own pleasure.
now if he isn't into foreplay, and that's what you want, maybe you could tell him "if you do this for me, i'll do this for you." hmm. although that is blackmail. oh well!
as for the wanting him to make love to you emotionally, we can't fix that in one post. but maybe this will help the sexual part. who knows, if you're really enjoying the sex, it may evoke from him that passionate being you desire.
amy
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