Posted by just plain jane on December 7, 2004, at 4:13:11
In reply to Thanks All...., posted by 64bowtie on December 5, 2004, at 5:36:53
I asked before, just briefly and on the end of another post, if you were being professorial.
That is how you come across to me, often.
One of the things I've heard and read, which is a generalization, of course, is that men tend to get to a place and want to stay there. This was particularly about relationships, but applies here also.
The point was that, while women generally continue to wonder, worry, try different stuff, want to talk about the relationship more, men generally get into a relationship and once it resembles their notion of stable, that's where they remain. Hence the reason many men feel like the "rug was pulled out from under them" when their wife, who has been trying to talk about things for years, has only gotten, "hey, what's to talk about? We're alright," tells him she wants out of the stagnant pond.
This concept may apply here. You talk about having made a journey years ago to wellness.
And then what? If you have been hanging on to that outlook, that perspective, all these years, and not continuing in self examination, growth, exploring divergent thought; if you have found "the way" and have "the answers", I wonder if you have done the same thing as the earlier example. Gotten past certain issues in your life and then settled in at that place, believing you have the keys now, the answers.
You refer to being anal, black and white at one time, other things I have picked up in your posts that indicate a rigidity. Which comes through often as you believing you have all the knowledge, all the answers. You know the way.
I post, not adversarial, nor believing I am right, but simply a view. I had a teen ask me what I (as a teen) had wanted to be when I was all grown up... I told her "dead". Until then I shall remain in the process of active growth. The "answers" will continue to come, and need to be modified as circumstances change. And even then, those answers I find are only for myself, for that situation, at that time, and may change at any time due to additional input.
By the way, are all your drawers perfectly organized? ;0
just plain jane
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