Posted by alesta on November 3, 2004, at 1:41:44
In reply to PARENTS DRIVING ME NUTS --------------------, posted by woolav on November 2, 2004, at 11:54:05
> Hi, just wanted to get this off my chest. I am a 32 yr old mother of a 15 yr old daughter. She does pretty good at school (private) and has a best friend who she spends every weekend with bc they go to diff. schools. So far, so good.
> Then, I have a stepfather (who has narcisist personality disorder) who is telling ME how to raise my daughter. He was the worst example of a parent when i was her age. It would take yrs of therapy to go through all that crap. Anyway, he thinks that my daughter should get involved with school activities. She really doesnt want to bc she doesnt like the spoiled rich kids that she goes to school with. Anyway, so he is giving me a lecture today about I am not parenting right bc i dont push her into something that she doesnt want to do. (like join band or something) It really pisses me off that he had the nerve to tell me what i should do with my daughter when he was a psychotic freak parent to me. Now, he is saying that he is going to theaten her by saying he wont help her buy a car next year if she doesnt get involved with an after school activity. (he of course thinks that her father and I could never get her a car) because he is GOD. Anyway, sorry, but i had to vent.
> Thanks
> Sandyhi sandy,:)
how's it goin', girl? you're the parent, not your stepfather. it sounds like you are doing just fine parenting and if your daughter doesn't want to do after-school activities, why make her? it sounds like your stepfather is stirring up the pot. don't let him. (you know i know about narcissists, as i've mentioned to you that my mother is one.) don't let him meddle in your lives. and don't let him hold anything over you, like this car. even if she did do the afterschool activity, then your stepfather may keep asking for other changes in your lives before he buys her the car. don't allow him this control, hon. best to tell him to stop meddling. tell him over and over, as needed. there need to be boundaries here. that's what i had to do with my mom. and she would hold stuff over me, too, and it would always be "one more thing" i had to do. don't let him blackmail you, because that is exactly what he's doing..blackmailing for control.take care, sweetie,
amy
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