Posted by JenStar on October 29, 2004, at 20:18:25
In reply to School, stress, and parents' expectations, posted by Klokka on October 25, 2004, at 5:42:31
hi Klokka,
the books are not the important thing here, even though they were expensive and your parents may be disappointed if they go to waste. What's the worst that could happen? What if you failed all your classes? You can bounce back from that, if it comes to that! Don't feel that it's the end of the world. Science isn't for everyone, and maybe it's not for you.Here's my advice, for what it's worth....
Take a deep breath...take the exams (even if you don't do well), and then take stock of the situation. Figure out what you need to do to recover things -- Do you need help with time management so you can better apply yourself? Do you really need to switch majors?
I'd be careful about this, though -- is the root problem that you are not good at science, or is the root problem that you did not do any studying, reading or delving into the topics -- if that is the case, that could be causing you a great deal of guilty sick feeling & could be causing some of the physical symptoms. It could also be an excuse ("I'm just not good as science") when you should really be saying "I didn't do any studying, or enough studying, to keep up the pace."
I know I always used to feel worst when I didn't apply myself and then had to "face the music," so to speak! This happened OFTEN (too often!) my freshman year, and it made me physically ill on several occasions. I would call my mom and cry and say I'd chosen the wrong major and that I was just not GOOD at my chosen field, but in reality I just was spending too much time hanging out & not enough time really learning the concepts. Of course I was in a big state of self-delusion and denial over this, but I knew it at some lever, and finally was able to face the issues and start applying myself.
The reason I say this is not to give you a hard time or to make you feel bad. It's just my experience that people can usually be good at ANY major they choose, as long as they put in the hours.
Anyway, take it easy. You're still a good, worthwhile, cool person regardless of your grades.
Take care!
JenSTar
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