Posted by alesta on October 5, 2004, at 9:06:19
In reply to Coping with uncertainty (and how hard to try..), posted by Fi on October 4, 2004, at 15:07:05
hi again, fi! :)
> Other people get understandably frustated if I have to cancel, especially if it was only the 2 of us and they dont like doing things on their own. And its not like having a 'respectable' visible physical health problem (and even that might be frustrating).
hmm..tough one..i'm not sure what to tell you..perhaps just go with what you think is best at the time..> So it can be easier to do things on your own, but then that isnt good on the socialising we are all meant to do (tho I am lucky that I can still enjoy things I go to on my own, when I am well).
i think if you enjoy your own company, that's wonderful! there's nothing wrong with that..a lot of very interesting people are introverts. we live in a world dominated by extraverts (like 75% of us), so that can leave people who enjoy their own company feeling like there's something wrong with them. but there isn't..do what you want..don't let societal norms and expectations drag you down!
> Then there is the dilemma, when I am a bit better, about how much to push myself. I put a lot of energy into work and the commuting. If I do things that require significant chunks of energy, does that make me more at risk of depression?
it sounds like with your penchant for depression, you should probably try and keep the stress level down..stress can absolutely cause depression..i have experienced this myself.
> But how much does it matter if I stay at home and watch good TV (the most relaxed situation for me after a day at work)..
there's absolutely nothing wrong with relaxing after a long day at work! in fact, many people enjoy watching tv after work..it's your reward for a long, hard day..i would encourage you to do that during the week if you enjoy that to keep your stress level down..no need to feel guilty 'bout it! just do what you enjoy, and stop worrying so much if it's the "right thing" you should be doing...life is hard enough. there is no right thing. enjoy yourself!> Anyway, thanks for reading (if you have got this far!)
your welcome, fi! hope this helps! ;)
cheerio! ;)
amy
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