Posted by ron1953 on October 1, 2004, at 19:55:27
In reply to harder to bond online? my sucky life...(bad day), posted by alesta on October 1, 2004, at 15:53:08
Amy:
Relationships with real people are much closer and rewarding than online friends. I like the people I know here but I'd like them better in person. I separated after 30 years of marriage 16 months ago. I had no friends and realized how important it was. I found a men's group and besides the emotional support, they became sort of an extended family and a couple of them have become good friends who I do things with or just hang out. It's necessary to have friends. I was suicidal when I joined the group a few months ago. Now, I'm considerably better. You need to get out and meet some people. How you do it is not as important as that you do it. Find a support group or other women's group. Volunteer at a local hospital. The possibilities are endless. It won't be easy but I guarantee it will pay off. While you're doing these things, we will be here to listen to and support you. Notice that although I have flesh and blood friends, I'm here, too.
Though I haven't been through what you have, I understand the feelings of despair. The fact that you're not keeping busy in any way is giving you too much free time to obsess about all of the things you listed. The obsession-depression cycle is a vicious one, and only you can stop it. First, there has to be a way for you to get the $35 to fix your car. Besides making friends, you can get books for free at the public library, you can take walks, which will definitely help you feel better. You can look for free therapy through government agencies. But you must make it happen. Nobody's going to do it for you. You will do it sooner or later. Why not sooner?
I don't usually like to give such advice and I realize that in your depressed state, it may not be helpful. It's the best I have to offer. Please try to take care of yourself.
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