Posted by Dinah on August 21, 2004, at 9:12:13
In reply to Re: Mom story » Dinah, posted by Klokka on August 21, 2004, at 0:15:23
One thing I'll always be greatful for is the last year with Harry. He was operated on for cancer almost a year ago, and wasn't expected to live more than two or three months. We tried an experimental treatment and he's still hanging in there. In the meantime, he's spent most of that year on my lap, and if he is indulged any more he'll forget how to walk or feed himself. :) And he was always the prince around here anyway.
I think he still gets a lot of joy out of life, although I also think he's in some pain. He's eating ok. Many times he'll shake while on the floor, but if I pick him up and put my hand on him a few minutes, I can feel his shaking stop and he relaxes and falls asleep. I refused to go on vacation this summer because I honestly think he wouldn't try so hard to live if he didn't have my lap to sit on.
What I need to work on is spending more quality time with my dad. Unfortunately that one isn't so simple. I have to go to him, and because of my own obligations and also because my mother is a hoarder and her house is really unpleasant to be in, that's a bit of a problem. Also, my dad has always both my beloved daddy, and a man subject to to deep depressions and horrible tempers. As I got older I learned how to bring out the best in him and minimize the worst, but it takes an emotional toll and it doesn't always work.
But still, I know that in the future, I'll regret what I don't do now, and I'll never regret what I do do. Thank you for reminding me of that.
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