Posted by JenStar on August 9, 2004, at 11:27:59
In reply to Re: What's in a Name? » JenStar, posted by mair on August 9, 2004, at 7:52:56
wow! that sounds awful -- having someone find you and tell your web confidences. Yuck!
I worry about that too, a bit. I don't have the personal confidence in my psyche to weather a bout of 'being exposed', I don't think. I'd be mad at the inequality of it (they know more about me than I wanted, and more about me than I know about them...gives them leverage in a way.)
I guess I choose to share personal stuff with you guys on Babble, things I'd be afraid or cautious to share with friends in 'real life'. I don't tell them because I believe some of them would react badly, strangely, or look at me differently. If I do choose to share some of my 'stuff' with them, I'd like to do it my own terms, not because they found me out and ID'd me (accidentally or on purpose, like that babble poster you referred to.) The funny thing is that I'd LOVE to have friends IRL with whom I could share all my deepest confidences, secrets, worries and neuroses. Maybe more of my friends wound be interested in sharing this kind of stuff too, and are also afraid to reach out. It's hard to take the first step though!
It seems unfair to have some discover my web identity; it's like having someone scrounge through my underwear drawer and my medicine cabinet and my diary all at once --and then pass judgement on what they found -- all the while keeping me away from THEIR diary/underwear/med cabinet. (Not that I look at these things in other people's houses...honestly!)
Anyway. Keep that underwear drawer safe!
Happy Posting.JenStar
PS - about have a T read stuff on babble...I guess I feel the same way about that. I like people to receive info when I choose to give it to them, not before. Otherwise it's like a scab being pulled off too soon. I'd prefer to have my T hear my issues from me, not the board. But I do think I'd like my T to read this site (not knowing which poster was me) at least once or twice, just to get a feel for it.
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