Posted by partlycloudy on August 9, 2004, at 10:44:11
In reply to Re: Does anybody else get offended ..., posted by TexasChic on August 9, 2004, at 10:23:17
Nothing hurts quite so much. If you can remember that this is HER problem, not yours; if you can remind yourself that she's unhappy about not being able to CONTROL you; would this help distance yourself from the hurt?
Most of all, it is her loss that she is spurning the friendship that you have cultivated. From what you've posted so far about this person, my impression is that she is someone who feels good by making others feel bad. She constantly needs to be reassured that she's faster, smarter, more likeable, prettier.... do you know what I'm saying? You must remember that you are no longer letting yourself be a victim of a relationship that belittles you like that. She definitely did not notice your haircut on purpose. You have to relinquish the power she holds over you in looking for her compliments on your cut.
You are in a position of strength, and she is bothered by this. You have already made plans to move on from this job where your future has been clearly sabotaged. You've moved into your own place so you're more independent than you've ever been. You are growing as a person, and she can't. I know all this sounds harsh, but you really do deserve a better friend than she has been. All this has happened for a reason!
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