Posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2004, at 19:16:16
In reply to Body issues at Work...advice please « B2chica, posted by Dr. Bob on July 1, 2004, at 17:16:52
Re: Body issues at Work...advice please
Posted by shadows721 on July 1, 2004, at 17:59:04
In reply to Body issues at Work...advice please, posted by B2chica on July 1, 2004, at 10:30:25
I am sorry you are going through this at work. I went through that at one time, but I was losing wt due to depression. I knew I was dropping wt too fast.
You are right. It is your body. It's odd, though, people do not usually say the opposite to those gaining wt. I mean they don't come up to someone and say, "If you keep gaining wt..." Somehow, when people lose wt, others seem at ease pointing this out.
Is the wt loss bothering you? If it isn't then, I would blow off those others comments to jealousy. But if it bothering you, I feel that going to a doc and telling him your symptoms may help. Anxiety can make people lose wt. Being nervous can make one burn a lot of calories.
It's just a gut feeling, but I feel what they are doing is reminding you of someone else. Somehow, that reminds me of an abuser too. They will stare at and make comments on one's body too. I don't know. Is there a connection or similiarity? I know you are angry at these nosy women, but you may also be very angry at someone else that did something similiar to this. What do you think about that?
The next time someone says something about your body, you could say, "Thank you for your concern" and/or "Why are you so focused on my beautiful body?";-)
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Re: Body issues at Work...LoL! » shadows721
Posted by Racer on July 1, 2004, at 18:36:42
In reply to Re: Body issues at Work...advice please, posted by shadows721 on July 1, 2004, at 17:59:04
Actually, when I was on Paxil, I gained 70# in about a year. My boss used to come up and pat my hip and say something like, "Better start watching your weight..." Ironically, she was quite overweight, herself. What's more, it was devasting to me -- going from about 35# underweight, to about 35# overweight? NOT something I'd recommend to anyone, but for someone with such strong emotional issues around my weight? HELL.
Of course, other than my boss and my family (same people who get "so concerned" about my weight LOSS) commenting almost constantly about my weight, you're right -- most people never said a word about my weight GAIN, only the loss.
Dunno about B2chica, but I think your point about it sounding as though someone else did the same sort of thing is probably pretty right on. Until you mentioned it, it had never occurred to me that my abuser used to say things to my mother all the time, for me to hear, about my body. I'd never thought about it before, but as soon as I read that, it clicked for me.
Thanks -- one of the best benefits of PB is that something you offer one poster may help others as well. Total bonus!
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Re: Body issues at Work...advice please » shadows721
Posted by B2chica on July 2, 2004, at 12:02:52
In reply to Re: Body issues at Work...advice please, posted by shadows721 on July 1, 2004, at 17:59:04
>>It's just a gut feeling, but I feel what they are doing is reminding you of someone else. Somehow, that reminds me of an abuser too. They will stare at and make comments on one's body too. I don't know. Is there a connection or similiarity? I know you are angry at these nosy women, but you may also be very angry at someone else that did something similiar to this. What do you think about that?
God, shadows721. i think you may be right. i even got chills when i read this.
thank you
b2c.
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