Posted by Angel Girl on June 15, 2004, at 7:53:45
In reply to Re: Letting go » Angel Girl, posted by partlycloudy on June 15, 2004, at 7:09:11
> ((((AG)))) please don't blame yourself because she's having a problem. I have a very difficult time letting go, especially if there have been hard feelings in the past that you thought had been reconciled.
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> I understand the Forgive part, but struggle with Forget. Sometimes when something has transpired, it colours a friendship. No need to take the rap, AngelGirl. This is your friend's deal. You're no less worthyn of friendship.
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> My T told me not to try so hard. It's a huge issue for me.
pcI think that is part of my problem. I try to hard. I've often been told that and I know it's true.
I understand what you're saying about forgiving and forgeting. I wrestle with that. Sometimes I think I have forgiven someone for something but yet if I don't forget about it, then did I *really* forgive them in the first place? Wouldn't you forget if you forgive? So confusing for me.
I think the thing that bothered me most about this situation was that she told me that she forgave me because it was the Christian thing to do. So what happened? Is she not a Christian anymore? I just don't get it and it really bothers me.
I have a feeing that a mutual friend told her that I'm dealing with a mental illness and that is why she has decided to distance herself from me. Just because I'm sick, doesn't make me any less of a person. <cries>
Thanks for the hugs. I could really use them today.
AG
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